Flowing with the flow

 Posting after almost two months. Challenges are normal now and an intrinsic part of our life. So, without thinking too much, we are just flowing with the flow and enjoying the time to the fullest.


As usual, I am sharing a conversation between me and Akshat. An interesting conversation happened after a long time. The conversation completed in 10 days...

6-12-22

M. We went to Didi’s birthday party last Friday…Do you remember?

A. Yes.

M. How was it...I forget to ask you...

A. it was very uncomfortable to sit there.

M. Hmm…What was bothering you?

A. dance, singing horribly.

M. Hmm…Was there anyone singing? I don’t remember…

A. Yes… they were all singing.

M. Ohhk…So you don’t like it?

A. No

M. But they were simply enjoying their friend’s birthday and expressing their enjoyment through dancing and singing…

A. Ok…But I do not enjoy mingling with others.

M. Ohhk…Then how do you enjoy and celebrate?

A. I work seriously with my passion and that is my celebration and enjoyment.

M. Wow! That’s nice…But don’t you ever feel to go out, eat out, party to express your enjoyment or celebrate your success and achievements…

A. I wonder mingling so illogical thing.

M. Haha…Well…On 18th December we have another get-together…What about that?

A. I think kind of mood management.

M. Ahh…Deep..That’s how you will learn flexibility.

A. how will I do that.

M. Hmm...So, by nature, you do not like socialization…But at times, we have to meet people for some reasons…When you go in such get together and as you said ‘ try to manage your mood’, you are basically learning to cope up with the situation and developing mental flexibility…

A A. Yess…I think flexibility is very highly difficult thing to practice.

M. Umm…yes, agreed…but depends on what changes you want to bring in yourself…When you start making a conscious effort, things become little easier…

A. bringing better needs time.

M. Yes…true…Any change takes time, practice and conscious efforts.

A. doing conscious efforts give desired result.

M. Of course…we need to keep the belief alive…

A. hmm.

Comments

  1. sharadasubbaramanDecember 16, 2022 at 2:10 AM

    Very interesting conversation indeed , Ritu ! So good to read that Akshat wants to try & reduce his inhibitions & learn flexibility in situations that he is not comfortable with. He has opened up a lot. Great going! 👌🙌

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  2. vijiDecember 16, 2022 at 2:23 AM

    Conscious efforts gives desired results, so beautifully put

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  3. Pratiksha Kush 's mammaDecember 16, 2022 at 6:55 AM

    Akshat has conversed so well, your conversation gives a deep insight into what people with autism are facing , feeling and dealing .

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  4. Ritu Ranka RassayDecember 20, 2022 at 2:16 AM

    Thanks all

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