B'day Party I attended

 

Last week, Akshat had a birthday party to attend. The invite came just two days before, so I checked with him first: Did he really want to go?
He nodded with a confident “yes.”

From that moment, our little countdown began. Over the next two days, I gently prepared him—talking about where we were going, who would be there, and what he could expect. These small conversations have become a part of our routine, and they work wonders.

Lately, Akshat has been showing a growing interest in social events, and he handles them quite well. Of course, there’s always a time limit, and I always honour that boundary. One of our unspoken rules is simple: we stay as long as he feels comfortable. No pressure, no expectations—just presence.

Over the past year, I’ve noticed a quiet but powerful shift. Akshat is coping better with social situations, stepping into them with more curiosity and less hesitation. Watching him choose to go out, engage, and enjoy in his own way has been heart-warming.

And this birthday party?
Just another beautiful reminder of how far he’s come.

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Love,

Ritu

With the bday girl Pankti Didi



                                                                        I can dance too! 😊

3-12-25

Yesterday I attended Pankti didi’s birthday. It was wonderful to be there.

I attended her birthday earlier also, a couple of years back but I remember that time I was not comfortable attending social functions.

 Social anxiety has always been a part of my life. Attending social functions was tiresome, overwhelming and difficult to cope because of the brain’s poor coordination among different channels. Because of the poor coordination, my thoughts used to be rigid.

Things started to change when my mood signals started stabilizing. It became possible as I can process the surroundings more meaningfully now. This time I felt like attending the birthday party.

The birthday party was good. People were enjoying and dancing. This time I too felt like shaking a leg. I was able to control the food craving, crowd and thoughts about feeling anxious up to a certain limit.

Though I missed the birthday cake.

I feel I can attend more such parties and functions, of course with accommodations.

Akshat Rassay

11-12-25

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