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Where to go - The Missing Vocational Path

  What's in Store? I am not going to college No degree, or convocation My mind is wandering off thinking of what vocation It never really settles down on any one thing or two Sometimes wish I could have a lady love too... What should I pursue? For which motivation will stay on - I got no clue... The search goes on and on Could write as an option, and I do when have to express me but upon being forced to do it my focus keeps stumbling In music I find meaning songs inspire me for long Why, if I get a hint of purpose someday, hidden in a song... By, Anagha Jawalekar Inconsistency is a major issue, which hampers overall productivity. Every work require some kind of efforts and sometimes, he does not want to put that effort. Even the simplest ones. Anxiety and ‘mood swings’ makes the work more challenging as he wants to finish everything as fast as possible and do not focus on the quality of the work done. I am focussing to build an opportunity in every possible area, that he shows in

Learning Advanced Life Skills - Experiences of Dental Treatment

30-5-22 Visit to the dentist Courage is all you need To beat the challenge Mood causes the irritation That very sensitive inner hot tooth How much valour it needed yes the courage is all you need.   By, Akshat Rassay In the last post, I shared how I am trying to build resilience in Akshat. The work is still in progress and it will take time to reach anywhere. I realised that with age he needs to learn advance life skills like seeing a doctor, hospitalization, blood test, dealing with a sudden change etc. Amaze’s intermediate social skill program taught some of these topics and I envision that it is the time to work on these skills. I have serious gum issues and dentist says that it could be congenital or genetic. Therefore, I was already concerned about Akshat’s oral hygiene and when the topic was discussed in the Amaze’s social skill program, I got the courage and decided to try for a dental check-up for Akshat. The plaque had already started accumulating in his fron

Building Resilience – The concrete way

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 Resilience One who bends, rebounds you see And stuff that's stiff, breaks tad Make lemonade with unexpected lemons Adapt to change - it's not all bad Being aware will help you cope Recognize your emotions, understand Self compassion can heal, not pity, Take a break, don't be overwhelmed Hold your faith, when you're set back Of old successes, make a mental bank Be rational, focus, find positive solution Move up your strength, boost up your rank Many things are beyond control yet final choice is always your own You're a survivor, not a victim So act like one and let it be known. It, that's flex, regains its form. That deforms is mere plastic. Come now, spring back from crisis, Be resilient, that's fantastic. By, Anagha Jawalekar As I have discussed in detail in the last post about all the measures, that I am trying, to manage Akshat’s aggression, but my bigger purpose is to make him recognize his own valour and to use it whenever and wherever needed in life.

Dealing With Aggression- Part 2- Practicing Mindfulness

  When I wrote the first part on dealing with aggression, I received many messages personally. In most of the messages, it had been said that one needs courage to share what I have shared. I do not know if I had done anything courageous. I simply wanted to share my experiences that I am going through in this autism journey. Many parents have gone through these experiences and/or going through it, but not all of them are in a situation to share them. I know personally parents who are not only struggling with the child’s challenges but with other issues also. I gather my courage by looking up to them, and I dedicate this post to them. The post will be a little long. Please bear with me. Currently, we are walking on the toughest terrain of our journey. Akshat’s aggression is on peak and he does not want to listen to ‘NO’ whereas, most of the time he says ‘NO’. (Reasons I have discussed in earlier post) Therefore, what I have identified is, 1.     I have to prepare myself to with

Dealing with Aggression - Part 1- Conflicting Ages

Anger The weather is pleasant again at the end of the hailstorm as it's late summer bright and beautiful  everything else is the same yet the crops have suffered That fit of rage that boils the blood in your nerves and takes over your mind That drives you to aggression to achieve what you think is only freedom Builds up like a storm, pours down and abates Of that I live in constant fear for I have sowed and I have toiled and I put up a fight as I ought to Except it crushes me to you, however, the world remains unchanged. By, Anagha Jawalekar I request everyone not to be judgemental while reading this post. The purpose of writing this post is to share my experiences. Autism has taught me a new lesson every day. Be it awareness, acceptance, perseverance, resilience, patience, hope, or detachment in attachment.   No, I do not intend to become a monk, but yes, over the period, these qualities have developed while working with Akshat. I am sure other fellow parents would agree with me

Communication Classes with Akshat - Guest post by Ms. Suhasini Sundaresan

  Hello readers, In today's post, I am sharing another guest post by Akshat's counsellor, Suhasini Sundaresan. We started taking sessions from her in around April 2021 when one day, during conversation, Akshat shared with me something about friendship and I realized that he needs some friends to hang out. After searching online, I got to know about ASK and got in touch with Suhasini and our journey started. The purpose of these sessions was to give exposure to online classes to Akshat, build one to one communication and of course providing him a buddy. I admire Suhasini for being extremely patient and supportive with us. She's one of the few who is in this field by choice and not by destiny. About Suhasini Sundaresan: Hi, I’m Suhasini Sundaresan, a Mumbai based mental health counsellor and psychologist at Adult Support Kendra, Mumbai. I’ve done my graduation in psychology, masters in psychology(clinical), post graduate diploma in counselling psychology and international dip